Infidelity: When Does It Become Enough?

 Posted on June 09, 2017 in Divorce

Almost half of men and women admit to cheating on a significant other at some point in their lives. Infidelity seems to be an epidemic, and evidence of the problem is rampant. Some relationships can bounce back from an incident of infidelity, others, however, cannot recover from the damage done.

If your partner has cheated, how do you know he or she will not do it again? Only those in the relationship can decide if they can weather the storm of infidelity, but there are some questions to consider that may help you find some clarity:

• Has your partner cheated multiple times or is this an isolated incident? Every instance of infidelity is further evidence that your partner will not be able to stop his or her behavior. For some, even one incidence of infidelity is enough to destroy the relationship. Ask yourself, “Is this likely to happen again and is that acceptable to me?”
• Does your partner admit to his or her behavior? In order to move past cheating, both individuals must be completely honest. Only when you start with a clean slate can you start to repair the damage. A partner who is not willing to be honest is not ready to move past the event.
• Is your partner in denial about his or her role in the incident or does he or she attempt to blame you for the infidelity? Many times, cheating is a symptom of a broken relationship. There may have been many other problems before the cheating began. Cheating is not a solution to unhappiness in a relationship.
• Does your partner seem remorseful for the pain he or she has caused you? Affairs cause serious pain for the people who were cheated on. They may feel like they have lost the sense of security he or she had in the relationship. Cheaters need to admit to the damage they have done and be willing to take responsibility for it.

Discuss Your Options

An adulterous affair by your partner does not necessarily mean that your marriage is doomed. Many couples are able to address the underlying problems and eventually rebuild their trust in one another. In other situations, however, infidelity could be a sign that the marriage is beyond repair.

If you have decided to end your marriage due to infidelity, you need an attorney you can rely on to provide sound advice and dependable representation. Contact an experienced DuPage County family law attorney for guidance. Call 630-352-2240 for a free consultation today.

Sources:

http://www.nbcnews.com/id/17951664/ns/health-sexual_health/t/many-cheat-thrill-more-stay-true-love/

http://www.drphil.com/advice/seven-questions-to-ask-if-your-partner-has-been-unfaithful/