How to Handle Post-Divorce Loneliness

 Posted on February 26, 2018 in Divorce

If you have been considering divorcing your spouse, you probably have many fears and concerns about how this will affect your life. Going from being a part of a married couple to being a single person is a difficult transition – especially for those who have been married for a long time. Some unhappy spouses end up staying in a marriage they are not happy in simply because they are afraid of being alone. Fortunately, there are ways that you can help alleviate post-divorce loneliness.

Do Not Hesitate to Ask for Help

Divorce is one of the most stressful life events that exist. In fact, according to the Holms-Rahe Stress Inventory, it is second only to the death of a spouse in terms of the stress it brings. However, as many people can attest, staying in an unhappy marriage can be equally stressful. Do not be afraid to ask for help. Many people who get divorced find that joining a divorce support group or employing the help of a therapist greatly helps them navigate post-divorce life.

Avoid Rebound Relationships

Many people who get divorced are deeply lonely, so they try to find a new romantic partner very quickly. Although everyone has the right to decide what is best for them, many experts warn that getting into a new intimate relationship immediately after a divorce (or even before the divorce is finalized) can be disastrous. It is important to note that Illinois does not recognize fault in a divorce, but other states may consider those who date before they are legally divorced to be engaging in adultery, which can affect the divorce process.

Focus on You

Parents are especially guilty of not making time for themselves. Sometimes marriage can take a tremendous amount of work and leave spouses with little time to themselves. After a divorce, an individual has the time to pursue hobbies or passions they could not in the past. Whether it be traveling, gardening, painting, or even joining an adult sports team, spend time doing things you enjoy after a divorce. Focus on the things which make you feel fulfilled and happy. Soon, you will be living your new exciting life and realize that you no longer feel the sting of loneliness.

Call Us for Help

If you are planning to divorce your spouse, contact an experienced DuPage County family law attorney for the legal guidance you need. Call 630-352-2240 for a free confidential consultation at Pesce Law Group, P.C. today.

Sources:

https://www.stress.org/holmes-rahe-stress-inventory/

https://www.womansdivorce.com/dating-during-divorce.html